For Love Or For Tribe?

This is the title of an article I read in TRUE LOVE (the publication with Ashionye as the cover girl).
It is the article before Segun Johnson’s article. The writer wrote about how most Nigerians marry for one’s tribe and not for love and how society raises an eyebrow at people who marry out of their ethnic groups.
I am an Ibo girl and I know how within the Ibo tribe, people go on and on about how people from Nnewi are somehow, and how people from Awka and Igboukwu are fetish.
I have dated only two Ibo men. Kay (who is actually Delta), and Chu who is from Mbaise and see how well those turned out.
I am told on and on about how Delta men cheat and maltreat their men. In Chu’s case, it is a bit sad (apart from him not knowing what/who he wanted till he lost me), my first cousin married an Mbaise man who battered her for almost twenty years till he threw her out and her eyes cleared (how would she have seen sef, her eyes were probably swollen).
I know many people from different tribes and I am amazed at the tribalism prevalent in the young people. For instance, Tiv people won’t marry Jukun for some stupid reason that I can’t remember.
I am tired of all the crap I hear about tribe. Does my being Ibo make me better than a Kanuri girl? Please people should get over their bullshit already.
I plan to be with someone for love and not for tribe. I will sooner learn his language than be in a loveless relationship.